Why You’re Not Getting Laid (And It’s Not Her Fault)

You think it’s the apps. The city. The culture. But here’s the truth: you’re not even in the game.

You think women are broken.

You think dating is broken.

You think hookup culture is broken.

You think the apps are rigged, Instagram ruined everything, and that feminism made women entitled and impossible to please.

And listen, I get it.

I’ve had the same thoughts.

But after a few years of watching the same types of guys spiral, say the same shit, and crash in the same ways…

I’ve come to a harsh conclusion:

It’s not women.

It’s not culture.

It’s not your city, your height, or your Instagram follower count.

It’s you.

You’re not getting laid, and it’s not her fault.

Let’s be honest.

You don’t talk to women in real life.

You overthink every move.

You play it safe until it’s too late.

You get one match on Hinge every two weeks, and you either freeze or flood her with needy texts.

You dress like you gave up three years ago.

You haven’t been to the gym in six months.

You tell yourself you're "working on yourself," but you're really just playing it safe and avoiding rejection under the cover of “self-improvement.”

And yet, you’re convinced women are the problem?

You’re not even playing the game.

You’re standing on the sidelines, yelling about how unfair it is that the cheerleaders don’t want you.

The truth is:

You don’t have a “dating problem.”

You have a passivity problem.

And women can smell it from across the room.

You can’t bullshit it.

You can’t podcast it away.

You can’t manifest your way out of it by watching redpill clips and saying “facts” in the comments like that somehow makes you more dominant.

You either move toward life or you wither in your own self-justifying cowardice.

That’s the real game.

Not tricks.

Not tactics.

Just the balls to do something.

Because when you’re passive, women don’t just lose interest, they lose respect.

They can’t help it.

A passive man feels like dead air.

They can’t trust you to lead.

They can’t trust you to protect.

Hell, they can’t even trust you to make a simple move when they’re giving you an open window.

And they won’t sit around forever waiting for you to man up.

Here’s how this usually plays out:

You meet a girl. She’s into you.

You’re funny. You’ve got good vibes. She’s feeling it.

And then...

You hesitate.

You stall.

You go soft.

You act like she’s some queen you’re trying to qualify for, instead of just letting her feel you.

And slowly… her attraction dies.

Then she ghosts.

Or flakes.

Or turns cold.

Or says, “you’re really sweet, but…”

And you start blaming women again.

“It’s the culture.”

“She just wants a Chad.”

“She’s not ready for a real connection.”

“She’s damaged.”

No. You killed the vibe.

You turned down the heat.

You acted like a man who doesn’t know how to move with conviction, and she responded accordingly.

Want the most uncomfortable part?

She wanted it to work.

She wanted to feel something.

She wanted to feel claimed, desired, taken out of her head and into her body.

But you were too scared to own that space.

So now you’re on YouTube looking for “phrases that make her obsessed” like a clown, still hoping you can find some workaround that lets you keep being passive while somehow getting laid.

You won’t.

You don’t need a script.

You need balls.

You don’t need another video.

You don’t need to “understand women.”

You need to understand what she feels when she’s with you.

If the energy isn’t charged… if she doesn’t feel a man in the room… if you don’t create a spark of tension…

She’s not going to want to be touched by you.

Not because she’s a bitch.

Not because she wants a millionaire.

Because you didn’t give her anything to respond to.

So what do you do?

Start talking to women. In real life. Even if you’re nervous.

Start leading. Start making decisions. Start owning shit.

Start flirting again. Start teasing. Start making eye contact for longer than you’re comfortable with.

Start dressing like you care. Start lifting heavy. Start sleeping more.

Start speaking your mind. Stop tiptoeing around approval.

Start living in a way where you move.

Where you initiate.

Where you put skin in the game, even if you lose.

Yes, rejection sucks.

But you know what’s worse?

Becoming invisible.

Being the nice guy she forgot existed.

Living your life where you constantly beat your meat instead of getting girls because you were too afraid to try.

That’s a slow death.

Don’t rot in that.

You’re not getting laid.

It’s not her fault.

And no one’s coming to save you.

But that’s the good news:

Because it means you can flip it.

Start being the reason she feels something again.

Start being the reason she tells her friends, “I don’t know what it is about him.”

It’s not about perfection.

It’s about movement.

Go.

Do.

Now.

-MOS