Why She Flaked (And What I Do Now So It Never Happens Again)
She said yes. Then never showed. I don’t blame her but I never let it happen again.
I still remember the first time a girl said yes to a date and then never showed.
It was back in uni. I had no real game, just confidence built off good grades, clean sneakers, and the idea that “if she likes you, she’ll come.” We’d been texting for a few days. She seemed into it. I was funny. She laughed. I cracked jokes about how she better not stand me up, and she played along like it was impossible.
Then 7PM came.
I was already at the restaurant. Table for two. Phone on the table, screen lit up. Every buzz that wasn’t her felt like a personal insult. I checked Facebook. No message. But she’d just updated her status: “Nothing like a chill night in 👌”
No makeup. Hair up in her profile picture. She even commented on a friend’s post about some TV show.
Meanwhile, I was sitting there, wondering why I even bothered.
I didn’t even get a cancellation text.
Just silence.
That night, something clicked.
Not anger.
Not shame.
Just awareness.
This is how some women operate.
You can do “everything right,” and still get no-shows.
You think it’s about logistics, timing or mood.
But it’s not always about what you do, it’s about what she feels.
A woman doesn’t flake because she’s bad.
She flakes because the emotional pull just wasn’t strong enough to get her out the door.
She didn’t feel like something would be lost by skipping you.
She didn’t feel tension.
She didn’t feel investment.
And if she doesn’t feel those things, she’ll choose comfort over curiosity every time.
Think back to the last time you planned a date and she vanished, how long did you sit there wondering what you did wrong?
That’s the trap.
You assume it's your mistake but often, it’s just a lack of psychological weight on her side.
When a woman is locked in, she will walk 30 minutes in heels to make that date.
When she’s halfway unsure, the slightest inconvenience becomes her reason to bail.
I’ve been on both sides of this.
I’ve been the guy she skipped and I’ve been the one she wouldn’t dare ghost.
So what changed?
I learned how to build that pre-date pull.
Not by over-confirming.
But by setting emotional hooks that make the date feel inevitable.
The kind that makes her plan her outfit days before.
The kind that makes her feel like missing you would be her loss.
And once you know how to do that?
You stop asking, “Are we still on?”
You already know she’s showing up
📌 Tomorrow, I’m dropping a full breakdown:
7 Ways to Make Her Want to Show Up for You
You’ll get:
→ The small pre-date tests I use to gauge interest
→ The subtle tension builders that raise her anticipation
→ How I turn “maybe” energy into certainty without chasing
It’s long. It’s tactical and it’ll flip your mindset about flaking forever.
Post drops tomorrow.
Make sure you’re on the list.
See you tomorrow,
-MOS