PASSING WOMEN'S CONGRUENCY & COMPLIANCE TESTS
Today, I’ll share my top strategies for handling “tests” from women. I’ll walk you through three methods I like best and provide examples along the way.
Women often test men for the following reasons:
To check if you’re congruency / consistent – They want to see if you’re genuine and truly the person you present yourself as.
To measure how compliant you are – This helps them figure out if you’re easily compliant. Being overly compliant can signal that they hold all the power in the interaction. It may also make you come across as weak or not a confident, capable man.
To challenge you – They might create a tricky situation to observe how you handle it. This is a way of assessing whether you possess qualities they find attractive, like confidence and composure.
To test boundaries – This is often tied to compliance. Sometimes, women will behave rudely to see how you react. Women who prefer strong, dominant men may do this to see if you stand your ground.
The strategies I’ll share today are specifically designed to handle:
Congruency / Consistency checks
Compliance tests
While these techniques work best for these two types of tests, they can also be applied in other scenarios. I’ll include examples to illustrate how they can be used effectively.
Key Rules for Dealing with Tests
Before diving into the techniques, here are two essential rules to remember when handling a woman’s test:
Stay calm and composed
Women test to see how you react emotionally. If you remain calm and relaxed, you’ll demonstrate confidence and self-control. Whether your response is verbal or nonverbal, keeping your cool gives you the best chance of passing the test.
Stay positive
Tests can be frustrating, but they aren’t always meant to be MALICIOUS. Even if they are, avoid reacting with negativity or anger. Handle tests with a smile and a positive attitude. Losing your temper or getting upset will kill the mood, make you appear overly sensitive, and signal that she’s successfully rattled you. This gives her control of the situation because she gets you to react emotionally.
Now that you understand why women test and the right mindset to adopt, let’s explore some techniques to handle them.
Simple Techniques for Controlling the Frame
Let’s start with two of the simplest and most effective methods for passing tests.
These techniques are straightforward and easy to learn with practice.
They are highly effective and don’t require calibration.
With a bit of experience, you can use them successfully in most situations.